I love the anticipation of the new year. From a business cycle, it’s exciting to see how much energy and refocus happens in the first few weeks of the new year. We all got a little rest and reflection during the holiday and the fresh start energizes us towards new things.
As we think about what will propel us towards higher levels of success, I have one habit that I want to share that will help you create new opportunities. It’s not a guarantee or a prescription. It does greatly increase your probabilities that a magical click moment will happen in its own timeliness.
Here’s the habit that can change your life and fortunes: When you meet anyone, ask, “How can I specifically help this person?”
That one question will do a number of things to change your reality and create opportunities. Not only will it get your eyes off of yourself but you will be focusing on what triggers success. You become valuable to someone in a specific way by bringing specific value.
To answer the question for each person you meet means caring and digging. You have to listen, observe and empathize. People are carrying around a lot of problems both public and unspoken.
There are likely many things that you possess in your knowledge, network or compassion that can help a person.
The diligence you apply has to be a habit. Think about helping, not taking. Think about solutions and offer them without looking for immediate returns.
I know in my life, I have helped a lot of people, especially around business. Many don’t recognize the value or even seek to reciprocate. That’s part of the lot. It doesn’t stop me from still giving.
But there are plenty of stories where there is recognition and a relationship grows. It’s happened enough times that I can attest that the habit of seeking to get into someone else’s life and be of service or value is a cornerstone to success.
In a sense we are in a value exchange economy. What you know and how you solve problems is what you give and trade. Do it enough and your dreams become reality over time.
As you get tips and encouragements on all kinds of advice, I offer this one thing. Push yourself to find specific ways to help people with their problems. Practice it the next time you are with someone and keep doing it. Watch how your world and opportunities open up.