The older I get the less I assume that success and failure is accidental. Something hidden led up to what we see. We simply don’t look behind the appearance enough.
Success in business, life, family, relationships and finances have hidden habits behind them. But it’s not fashionable to think that the slow, consistent and committed day in, day out work or grind are the backstory. That’s painful, boring and not immediate.
Ramit Sethi’s Secret Habits article is a fun read if you want to get a more blunt perspective of what I am talking about. He’s right. I have to admit, I have a lot of hidden habits that I simply don’t share, or I am unaware of my habits that impact my outcomes.
Doing the small things over time lead up to who we are, where we end up and why we get what we get.
Imagine that you would be an entirely different person with a few small tweaks done consistently:
- Read thirty minutes first thing in the morning
- Express gratitude to every person who has done you a kindness
- Walk for an hour a day
- Drink six glasses of water every day
But those are hard to do. And that’s why so few people get to enjoy success. They don’t look at it as work. They are simply hidden habits that bear out over time.
You can also practice adverse habits regularly and experience a totally different life:
- Obsess about social media posts and news
- Binge on Netflix
- Get everyone to like you
What do you think would happen over time with such habits? Is discontent or fruitlessness accidental? You get what you practice over many weeks, months and years. And you become that person you practice.
If you’re frustrated, how about swapping out a habit for something you want in order to get to where you want to go?
It’s a fair world. Maybe not digestible, but fair, nonetheless.